Everyone has had their fair share of failed relationships but when can you define it as toxic?
A toxic relationship is when two partners are stuck in a cycle of miscommunication, distrust and unjustifiable arguments.
Despite seeing the signs, it mostly takes two to make a relationship toxic, but, if you don’t recognise it early, it will have a physical and mental toll on your life, so it’s best to get to grips with the red flags.
Socialising whilst in a relationship is key. However you may begin to push friends and family away. Sometimes a partner can manipulate you into only spending time with them.
Always remember that a good boyfriend/girlfriend makes an effort with your friends and family instead of drawing you away.
Changing who you are
The best part of being in a relationship is feeling comfortable and secure. If you feel yourself altering your personality to suit your partner and treading on egg shells then you’re not comfortable.
Looking at your partners Snapchat location or when they were last active on Facebook is a clear sign of trust issues. We’ve all been there and done this a couple of times but frequently checking shows that you don’t trust what they are telling you. Think to yourself, what is the reason I am checking up on them? What have they done to make you distrust them?
The first bit of advice would be talk it out with them, but if they become annoyed with the conversation it’s better to end it now instead of feeling upset or anger towards your partner.
How many times have you asked your partner to spend time with you and they bail last minute? Well this persistent unreliability screams toxic. Being let down can make you feel worthless and can lower your self esteem, so instead of putting up with it you need to realise that this just isn’t working for you anymore.
Reluctance to communicate properly
The biggest red flag in a toxic relationship is lack of communication. Arguing over things that are easily avoidable through communicating is typical for couples, however extremely unnecessary. If you and your partner cannot talk to each other about your issues then the relationship will not last.
Sometimes, people find it hard to communicate their feelings and emotions. If that’s you, then you need to work on improving the way you talk to your partner before it’s too late.
Poor excuse as to why you’re in the relationship
No one wants their relationships to end based on bad blood. However, if the only reason for you staying with your partner is the fact that you’ve been together for a long time, then that is not a good enough excuse.
Despite the heartache, if you are not happy then leaving your partner and working on yourself for a while may not be such a bad idea.